Murphy’s

From Chisholm’s
“When things are good well,
Something will go wrong”

To Murphy’s
“If anything can go wrong,
It will (go wrong)”

There is a lack of faith
That good things can last
That maybe life is actually
Rigged in your favour (Rumi);

Maybe good things will last
If you believe them to be so
That perhaps all things are in the mind
If you will it to be so;

I think it’s worth a try.

Competitiveness

I don’t mean Usain Bolt, or Michael Phelps, or even Djokovic; I mean the everyday guy who plays to win all the time. 

To speak of champions like Schumacher, Sampras or Earl Anthony and discuss their competitiveness is to say a modern Ferrari is quite fast; these people epitomise what it means to have the passion for their sport, and the desire to win. What is more interesting for today would instead be to talk about the competitiveness of the daily Joe and how he seems to want to win in everything.. even casual mealtime table soccer. 

There is a naturally high streak of competitiveness in some people, and their eyes burn with the desire to win in almost everything they do. They seek to do better than everyone else in academics, in appearing smarter during conversations, in running a quarter mile, in a friendly game of football.. in everything really. 

It can cause people to want to play for / against them because it adds an edge to the team or the overall game, or it can cause people to respond otherwise in that it causes the game to be too serious, and takes the fun away due to the tension caused. I’m sure there’s someone in your head right now. How do you feel about thy person?

You can’t blame him really; it’s something in born in him that he can’t really control. It’s like a chemical in him that gets activated when a situation calls for competition. It’s quite like adrenaline: it pumps naturally and when he’s in the zone, his eyes are fixated only on winning. He doesn’t play; he plays to win. And that’s just how he is naturally. 

However, (there always is a however) that person’s competitiveness, or rather over-competitiveness can be a hindrance to himself because it would mean defeat comes at a much larger impact to him. He would likely not be one to take defeat lightly upon himself, and it is likely to affect him more than others. This could be a good thing if it drives him to push himself to better his abilities, but if it seeks to demotivate or derail him.. then it really isn’t ideal. Depending on who he is, it could have an equally astonishing positive or negative impact.

Besides this, it would also make him much more individualistic. His fixation on victory would result in very much a singlemindedness in him, and he will push himself in a way that he would be nearer to winning than losing. This drive is often running only in himself, and thus would very much single him out in casual or friendly settings. But of course if you have a whole group of people like that put together.. You get Bayern Munich, FC Barcelona or Manchester United. 

So you can’t stop the competitive guy from being competitive because he is just being himself, something that is naturally in him. You could remind him to kick back and chill once in awhile, but overall you need to accept him for who he is. He is very much a game spoiler if taken wrongly but chances are.. He’s the game changer if you know how to exploit this zeal in him.

Are you someone like that?

Dreams

As you’ve seen, I’ve decided to switch from “poetry”-styled posts to prose-styled posts to facilitate easier discussions of certain topics that require lengthy sentences and descriptions. I used to aspire to write only in “poetry” form on this platform, but it has gotten unsustainable lately, hence the switch over. (I will however still post one of those short ones every now and then just to make sure I stay true to my roots and that I don’t lose touch. Haha.)

The topic for tonight seems to be a heavy one (or light one, depending on how it goes and if you’re a light or heavy sleeper, haha) again, and yes it is about Dreams. I don’t mean the literal first definition of thoughts or sensations experienced in the mind during sleep; I mean the aspirations and goals we all have in life that we hope to achieve (whether they are within reach or not, is another thing). Contrary to popular belief, dreams are not for the young; dreams are for everyone bold enough to have the desire to want to achieve what they think will give themselves (and sometimes others) immense joy.

I think the one very important activity that pre-school and primary school teachers conduct is the sharing of children’s ambition(s) and dream(s). I think it is crucial that the child and the adults around him identify what the child sees as important to his life, and what he seeks to achieve in time to come. The first step towards realising any dream is to be able to know what the dream is, ideally exactly what it is, but if not a rough idea is at most times is good enough. It is also a good idea to write it down for future reference. Here’s why.

When we get caught up in the tiredness of everyday life and we lose focus and grip on our goals and objectives, we can take out that sketchy little paper from under piles of other things to remind ourselves what we used to aspire towards in our younger and more innocent days. A dream coming from a phase in life where we think all things possible, before society even started telling us otherwise.. I think that’s a valuable thing to hold onto when we face obstructions and obstacles later on in life. We need to be reminded of how simple things can be, beneath all the layers of what life or society heap upon us (and our dreams).

If you have a kite flying in the distance or a rainbow in the sky, do not be afraid to reach out for it. I’m not going to tell you about the practical concerns of life and how sometimes our dreams are not meant for realising in the face of everyday life; that we can leave to your naysayers who think otherwise. I’m just going to tell you to go for it. Just try, because you will never know how far you can go until you do. The rest, we leave to grit and how far life will allow you to go.

Have a good night, and let’s wake up tomorrow with a greater sense of purpose and a stronger will to achieve those dreams that lie waiting for us in the horizons.

Crossroads

Sometimes we are led to crossroads
With a left and a right down each side:
Paths which lead on to the unknown
Where the destinations are purposefully out of sight;

We cannot know where each will take us to and
We cannot tell how the journeys would be but
One thing we can be sure of is that
We can only head down one of the two pathways;

How do we make up our minds at crossroads?
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I have a feeling they lead eventually to the same end point.